My name is Josemar Negreiros and Y.L.I.T.K. is a project to share with you the idea that Your Love Is The Key to a Better World, to a better life, to a better human experience.
“Love Love. And I mean love that goes beyond the romantic love that most people think about here. It is a deep, pure Love that, when experienced, is so amazing that it cannot be described in words. It is beyond words. The solution to our problems in our worlds is not going to ultimately come by politics or regulating ethics and morals and whatnot. The solution is coming from a shift in thinking/feeling on a much deeper level” wrote Jurgen Vanhauwe in his book Waking Up At Both Sides – Discover What you Couldn’t Ask.
Love, joy, peace are the feelings with the highest frequency on Dr. David Hawkins’s scale of emotions. When true love is in charge, everything else is correctly assembled, like a puzzle. The chaos turns into perfection.
The most significant incentive to write about this came from my UBER and Lyft passengers during some pleasant conversations I use to have with them after we engage in a conversation. They used to ask me where my accent is from and after a breath chatting, curiosity used to arise; “What a Brazilian Civil Engineer, former Protestant was doing in San Diego after meeting in Chicago, an agnostic Belgian who after an out of body experience, turned into a medium (psyche)?”
They were even more interested to know how I could still sound happy and positive after the traumatic process of pain I went through, caused by the premature passing of my late husband, Jurgen Vanhauwe. A process to find myself and fit myself on a complicated puzzle generated from all the belief systems I had collected throughout my entire life. I consider it my Spiritual Awakening, but saying that sounds like a religious or spiritualist movement, things that I am learning how to not depend on to be happy and free in life. They were intrigued: “How could a unique couple experience a love like that?”
I had to find a way to show the creativity of a person who, besides being a doctor in Microbiology, specialized in Neuroscience, was an artist and a writer. His art and books should be known by people, especially those who are struggling in life. His legacy should not be faded away.
We both used to work from home. After his passing, his absence was too painful for me.
Driving an Uber was the best solution to my life: I could be out of home, working without having a boss, pushing me to be productive while on terrible grief. I was able to heal my pain while sharing my love story with others. The combination of all these worked like a miracle.
I found it surprising that people of all genders, races, and ages were so compassionate with everything I shared. They seemed thirsty to hear about love, and maybe I was allowing them to think differently about love and other life topics. “Therapy sessions” were fun to the point that some of my passengers became my friends. I have on my cell phone the number of many of whom I found by the same surname UBER LYFT friends.
The compelling energy to share came right after a beautiful experience I had with a couple of passengers back to April 2016. On a cold early morning, I received a call from a middle-aged couple going to the airport. As soon as they got in the car, I felt a kind of dense energy between the two of them. The reason was a disagreement about the color of the kitchen cabinets they were remodeling. After a few minutes, thoroughly annoyed by the complete silence of the husband, the lady asked him if he would be like that during their vacation in Hawaii. As a driver, I know it is inappropriate to interfere in passengers’ conversations, and I only engage in chatting with them when they invite me.
Breaking the protocol, I felt the impulse to say something.
Me: I realize that there is a certain tension between both of you. Can I share something?
The surprised Man said: Yes. Sure!
Me: Last month, I was on vacation in Brazil, and while having a casual dinner with my family, I received a call from the Los Angeles police informing me that my husband had been found dead in a hotel room. I will tell you that I would try the most impossible, never again to have to feel such terrible pain.
Lady from the back seat, touching my shoulder, said: I’m so sorry, sir.
After helping them remove their luggage from my car, the gentleman shook my hand and thanked me for sharing that. He hugged his wife, and both walked into the terminal.
It is difficult to put in words the happiness and energy I felt when I got back inside the car. Something new and healthy was inside me. Since then, there have been many and many shares about different events in my life before and after Jurgen’s passing.
Sometimes I had to turn off the car engine to finish a great conversation I was having with a passenger.
I am not an expert on the topics we used to talk about, and I am far from trying to impose my truth to anyone. But I have found it fascinating how some of my friends and passengers had never thought about different ways to help us to understand the reality we live in and co-create with one another. The belief systems that our ancestors passed to us throughout the millennia and our parents, society, and religions teach most of us still have a significant influence on the quality of life and even mental health we have. A different view about some topics can help us, instead of scarily, enjoyably navigate, in this particular time we are experiencing right now on this great planet Earth.
Read the BBC Earth article, “Could Human Consciousness be linked to quantum mechanics?” You can have an idea about this.
I will share some episodes where the imaginary barrier between Science and real-life was broken in my life and became a reality.
Metaphysical phenomena and Communication with spirits, which I call interdimensional conversations (watch the movie Interstellar). Negative or positive energies; higher or lower vibrations or frequencies; Parallel Universes etc. I like to relate all these as a result of the state of mind that we allow ourselves to be. Sometimes aware of it, but most of the time unaware.
Furthermore, I cannot leave the trajectory of a person who lived only 42 years old, but who, through his talent and natural brilliance, motivated me to be happier and to be the person I am today. He was a scientist, writer, and painter. His liveliness and intensity in living were seen by many who met him and were part of his life in this dimension, but his greatest legacy to me was his unconditional love.
“Love Love. And I mean Love that goes beyond the romantic love that most people think about here. It is a deep, pure Love that, when experienced, is so amazing that it cannot be described in words. It is beyond words. The solution to our problems in our worlds is not going to ultimately come by politics or regulating ethics and morals and whatnot. The solution is coming from a shift in thinking/feeling on a much deeper level. Whether you want to call it a spiritual solution, I leave that up to you. How is this even possible on a population level? Have you ever seen a school of sardines? They swim in unison to appear larger and some meddle a little bit here and there, but they see the value of swimming together. It doesn’t mean they have to give up who they are as an individual; they innately know they become something more and yet remain in their unique sameness. The same exercise can easily be done for us with the right message.
Love Love. See the other as yourself.”